For a long time now Micah & I have been discussing our options for the future and trying to decide what would be best for our family. We have always both agreed that the best decision for our family would be to have one of us at home with our kids (preferably me) but there’s always been that issue of income vs. expenses.
Well, we finally crunched the numbers and determined that for the very little extra I’d bring in with 2 kids in daycare, we’d be best off having me stay home if we had a 2nd child. We made that decision back last year already.
We knew this was our plan back before we started trying to have another. We weren’t concrete on it, but we were at least 95% certain that unless I could stay with Interstates part time somewhere/somehow, it would be best for me to stay home full-time.
Since the day that we found out that we were expecting we have been discussing when this transition would happen. Micah, of course, wanted me to wait as long as possible before even bringing it up with my boss. His preference was definitely that I go part-time instead of quit completely, but he also knew it wasn’t very likely. He repeatedly told me that he knew I’d be quitting & was okay with it!
So about a month ago, I was meeting with my boss for our regular meeting. The conversation went from one thing to another & somehow ended up on potential plans for this fall & after the baby. So although earlier than I had thought I would, I approached the subject of part-time, knowing it wasn’t a very likely possibility (as I’m not exactly bored each day!) Within a week after that meeting, the answer came back that indeed it would not be possible. So the plan was worked out. The official notice was given, and my last day with Interstates will be sometime at the end of August/beginning of Sept! CRAZY! I have been here for 3 1/2 years (not much to some I know) but that’s a long time for me! It still seems a little crazy/unreal most days but I am getting more & more excited at the thought of being home full-time.
The only problem, would be my husband’s reaction! Keep in mind that he has known about this “idea” for over a year! Keep in mind that the entire time he has been saying “its best for you to stay home” and “you’ll be quitting this fall!” Now, instead of being loving & supportive he’s gone off the deep end! The best comparison I can make is to the Gilmore Girls episode where Suki tells Jackson she’s pregnant with their first. He who has wanted 5 kids in 5 years goes NUTZ! Crunching numbers, mumbling things, taking everything to the extreme… he completely loses it! Only difference between him & Micah – he seems to snap out of it in the end of the episode & comes around to be supportive. Micah – well I’m not sure he’ll ever stop talking about the need to cut corners here & there, pinch pennies on things Alexa/I/the baby want or need, and cut out every non-necessity he doesn’t care about.
Note those last words – not once has he mentioned selling his somewhat pricey motorcycle. Not once has he mentioned giving up buying tools or motorcycle parts or internet toys/etc. Instead what does he want to go? The ONCE a year expense I’m allowed of a hair cut, or the occasional meal out I go on with friends. He hasn’t said he’ll stop going to pizza ranch buffet over noon & wasting $8…no he’s said “just because you’re home you won’t have any money for gas so don’t think you can go to your mom’s & friends’ houses all the time!” Unreal!
But alas, this is the way he operates! I’m sure it will all be fine, we’ll make it each month as long as we’re not frivolous or dumb with our finances & overall it will be a great & awesome experience. We just need to show him that! :)
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